I was just watching Pete Yorn on Ellen that I DVR’d. I used to reallllllly love Pete Yorn about 8 years ago, and it’s nice to see he’s still around! His first two albums are still among my favorites, though I haven’t really kept on top of his current work.
I got into Pete Yorn in college when I was working as a college marketing rep for Sony/Columbia/Epic. We always got new, upcoming artists to work on, and his debut album was one of them. The fact that his promo pic made all us college girls swoon didn’t hurt either. =)
One day I got a phone call from my bosses in NYC — someone who was supposed to accompany Pete Yorn for the day in Boston had someone else to take care of I.E. someone bigger and more important. And of course, I was on that like white on rice. I tried to play it down like it was no big deal, but I could hear my bosses in the background making fun of me with high-pitched girly voices going “ohh he’s soooooo cuteeee”
Of course I decided I had to clean my car like nobody’s business and while I was doing that, I missed my weekly conference call. I couldn’t tell them I had forgotten about it because I was cleaning my car for Pete Yorn. That would just be admitting too much.
So the day arrived. I met up with him down at Emerson’s radio station, he played a few songs live, and I got to sit in on it, which was pretty amazing. Like having a private concert just for me. Yea, I’m surprised I can even remember it, my excitement should have stolen away my memory and just become a fuzzy dream.
Later, I had to bring him down to the venue he was playing. I was really excited about this part. Pete Yorn was getting in MY car. Sadly, it didn’t go as I had hoped. He took along his bandmate Walter, and they both sat in the back seat like I was their chauffeur and sat there texting on their two-ways the whole time. He didn’t say more than a sentence to me, even though I tried to engage him in every day conversation.
My college girl heart got crushed. I dropped them off, got a quick wave and thank you. But that was it. My heart got a band-aid later when he remembered I was the one who spent 1/2 the day waiting on him to cater to his whims.
He signed a poster to me that said “thanks for the ride”. I felt squared away and like I could let go that he’d given me the cold shoulder all day. I finally realized — I’m an employee. A fly on the wall. My only use to them is to get them from point A to B safely and on time.
He and Nelly Furtado taught me that important lesson. She looked at me like a squashed bug instead of a fan when I met her backstage after a show. I wasn’t there in any official capacity, at the time I just loved her music and had been really excited to meet her. It was shortly after the release of her 1st album and her small club tour show had been really amazing. And to be clear here — I never had unrealistic expectations with any artist or musician. All I ever wanted was some eye contact and a “hey, how ya doin” or “thanks for comin”.
So after those two, I no longer wanted these people to be nice to me, or cared if they acknowledged my existence. I always knew they were people too(duh) and that they had to put on an appreciative facade allllllll day, and it was probably exhausting. But I learned to lower my expectations and no longer got excited to meet someone who’s music I liked. I didn’t want pictures or autographs any longer. Meeting your favorite musician would probably lead to massive disappointment. These were the years I became jaded.
To brighten this whole depressing thing, here’s the funny part of the story:
My dad always thought this position at Sony Music was an internship, which rubbed me the wrong way. I wanted him to realize it was a real job that I got paid for(meager though it was, it had perks). He didn’t ever really appear to understand why I loved it so much, and always seemed secretly convinced that someone was gonna take advantage of his poor innocent naive daughter(who, me??).
So anyway, my parents came to visit me in Boston and my walls were just covered in posters and autographs and pictures at the time. Of course, this Pete Yorn one was prominently placed because I was proud I’d been entrusted with him for a day(I blocked out the rest).
So my dad is perusing the wall…and sees Thanks for the RIDE — and immediately looks at me with bug eyes and says “what does this mean!??! RIDE?!” yea, we share this dirty mind quality. I had to calmly explain that it means exactly what it says. He got in my car, and I drove him somewhere. You wouldn’t believe the look of sheer relief spread across his face. You could tell for just a moment there my dad wondered if I may be whoring myself out for work. Just a moment.
Later, when he started utilizing my Sony discount he became happier & more understanding of my job. 😉